Excerpts from The Book of Love:

SEX

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You'll become the most amazing lover your man has ever been with...
and that goes a LONG way to keeping your man focused on YOU.

.....if the man is with you and is making signals that he fancies you and wants to go to bed with you, then relax and enjoy the fact that he fancies you, no matter how many insecurities you may have about the way you look....and EVERY woman has a bagful of insecurities about her looks---you're not the only one, believe me. He wouldn't be with you if he didn't want to be, and every man who wants to be with you wants to go to bed with you. Put all your insecurities away and lock the box and assume you are desirable, because that is how he will be feeling. If he wants you, he will have eyes only for you. If you are confident about your body, whether it's perfect or not, that confidence will make you all the more desirable and all the more beautiful to him. I can't emphasize this enough.

So, no matter what you look like, if the man is with you, he wants to be with you and he thinks you're pretty tasty, and you are therefore beautiful, got it? Act that way with him....it will please him and flatter him, and it will make you feel great. You are the most beautiful woman in the world when you are with any man who wants to be with you. Never forget that.

For instance, if you've got a great ass that sticks out (another thing most of you don't like and ALL of us do), but you are clever and smart and want to be appreciated for your personality and brains, show off your ass by wearing tight things; attract the man with your ass first, and THEN dazzle him with your wit (or anything else you want to dazzle him with!). From a man's point-of-view, this makes perfect sense....and all men like a woman who knows what she's got and shows it off to her best advantage, whether it's her ass, hair, legs, breasts, eyes, mouth, or fingers, even.

Attraction, then interest.

I remember seeing an interview program about a guy who only liked very busty women and was now married to a girl who was beautiful and enormous on top. She was bright, had her own thriving business, and you could see they really loved each other. It was amazing to me that several women in the audience questioned why he liked busty women.....and why he didn't go for the girl "inside." This was a classic example of the differences in how men and women think. He did go for the girl inside....but he went for the girl OUTSIDE, first.

This man thought the way we all do: he happened to love busty women---some men love women with boyish figures, some men love plump women, women with long legs or a great ass.....whatever---the point is that this man was attracted to this girl because of her enormous bosom and the fact that she was pretty. He then got to know her, found he liked who she was, and she liked who he was, and loved the fact that he loved the way she looked. Win-win for both parties. He fell in love with her, and she with him, and they got married. That's how we operate. We are attracted to you for whatever visual reasons, and everything flows from that. You don't work that way, but we do. This also insures that you don't throw whatever pearls you have before swine.

See?
Neat.

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